Came and Went

Our first placement was a sibling group of three.  A twelve year old girl, fourteen year old boy, and sixteen year old boy.  They came from over 85 miles away at 3:20am in the morning.  Our time together was a short eight day whirlwind of last minute appointments, continuous calls from unknown numbers, and learning to live hour to hour not knowing what to expect.  It was also eight of the most joy filled days of our lives.

The hardest part of our first placement was not the kids, their family, or the major change in our lifestyle.  The hardest part was being part of a system that is overworked, underpaid, and scrutinized instead of supported by society.  This crushed system, who’s intent is to protect children, made it more difficult for the three in our care.

5 Things Our First Foster Care Placement Taught Me

  1. The true intentions of others are easily deciphered by those in the midst of tragedy.
  2. We have at least one thing in common with everyone we meet.
  3. Words can not adequately express thoughts or emotions.
  4. What may appear to be an insignificant action, could be very significant in the lives of others.
  5. Judges need to be held accountable for their decisions.

“came and went like moths among the whisperings” F. Scott Fitzgerald